Archive for January, 2010

BODY LANGUAGE AND DATING

You could be at your best behavior but still your date would have refused to see you the second time. This would let you ponder that what when wrong which made him or her deny your proposal for the second date. Well, the reason is your body language. You would have sent some signals that you shouldn’t have thought you body language, knowingly or unknowingly. These signals would have revealed something negative about you which made your date decide against meeting you again.

You should know about body language so that you don’t end up sending wrong signals to the date while you are on it – to scare the date away. Following suggestions would help.

Eye Contact

If you are interested in the person you are dating then it would be good to have an eye contact with the date. But that doesn’t mean that you stare. While taking you should always maintain an eye contact and in case respond well to that means that the other person is interested or else the other person would not have an eye contact while talking. This should be an indication enough for you to understand.

The First Impression

The first impression is very important. No matter how much people babble about being open minded and being against the first impression, they secretly do believe in the same. Hence, make sure that you’re your are at your best behaviors when the date sees you for the first time, this would not only mean that you are dressed well, this would mean that the same is oozing out of your skin and behaviors.

Hand Gestures

The hand gestures knowingly or unknowingly would say a lot about your intentions. Therefore you should be a little aware of what a particular hand gesture means, so that you are careful about the same while on a date. This would ensure that you are only sending those signals that you want to.

Your Stance

The way you would stand would talk a lot about you. So be careful. If while standing you are leaning too much on the lady or visa versa, this could be a sexual advancement or could simply be understood as lack of providing space to the others. In both the situations you would not reflecting your best. Hence, it is better to stand straight without leaning and at the same time respect the physical space of the other person.

DATING RULES FOR WOMEN

The phrase “dating rules for women” might offend some people. There have been a lot of controversies in the US about the same. But this is I guess a little over rated. There has been a lot of book and articles written about the subject and the advantages of the same is limited top the ladies who would go against the general norms of these being bad. The idea of alluring men is not the best way to define the rule book for dating for women. The same is basically a structured approach towards finding the right partner for oneself.

The problem is not the rules of dating sketched for women; the actual concern is how the concept of dating is conceived at the first place. Dating is a real healthy way to look out for compatibility with the other male counter part. God has made men and women – they are not only biological different there are psychological differences as well, which is not very easy to distinguish in an event of arguments. Therefore when to people decide to live their lives together by getting married, it is very important that not only should they understand each other but at the same time they should be compatible with each other in as many aspect as possible. This would only be possible when you would know the other person. Keeping that in mind and dating is a healthy thing. But the problem is that it is misconceived by many and it is more of a game to get laid, which makes every thing dirty.

You could never know that the person you are looking at while on the first date, that is he for real or is he just following the rules of dating. The same goes for women as well. These rules of dating for women and men make the entire concept of dating fail in case the same is used as a tool to impress some one and not being what you are. That is the reason that most of the arranged marriages last more than the one resulting from dating. The same could again be blamed to the dating rules which make the men and women look superficial.

The above doesn’t mean that ladies should not look at these to get he most of the date they are going out with. This just means that ladies should use these dating rules with a genuine intention o f looking for the Mr. Right and at the same time to be able to gauge the real man behind what the date is posing to be.

DATING RULES FOR MEN

Dating is a healthy way to meet women. However, there are certain rules that men should abide by while dating. This would not only be good for the person dating but the same would brighten the chances of getting better dates. The following are some rules which could help to allure women –

  • The way you dress would have a great impact on the ladies. Wear you best clothes and don’t compromise of the shoes.
  • Groom your self a bit before going for a date. Going to a saloon for a little make over would really help.
  • Be prepared about for the questions that would come your way about your job and your future endeavours. As women would only like to associate with you, if she would feel you have, what it takes to be successful.
  • Don’t open your big mouth when you know noting about a subject in question. It is better to know about the interests of the woman you would be dating to be a little prepared with the possible conversations.
  • No matter how much your drink, never try to justify or extol about drinking in front of the lady you are dating even if she is open to the idea of drinking.
  • If you are passionate about any sport – it sis great but don’t demonstrate the obsession for the same by checking the score or over talking about the same on a date.
  • Never expect and thus make any sexual advancement on the first date, this is the best way to flee women if that is what you want form your date.
  • Be as courteous, polite and chivalrous as possible as this would get you bonus points.
  • Be a good listener rather than talking. Let the lady feel heard and try to look interested even if you are getting bored with the talking stuff.
  • Dancing on the date could real impress women. Hence, if you have two left piece get some dancing lesson, the expense would prove to be an investment in long term.

Follow all the rules above and you would not be running out of dates, who knows that you would meet your soul mate in the process.

THE FORBIDDENS FOR THE DATING GAME

Dating is a healthy way to meet people to finally reach out to your soul mate. There are people who have made this healthy dating noting more than to have company to spend time. This is really disgraceful. To ensure that you let the dating game as healthy as it is supposed to be you should ensure that you should never do the things as mentioned below while dating –

  • Make sure that you don’t bother the person who you just went with texts and phone calls; unless you get response to a call or text you did once a week.
  • Never pick the date that has something to do with your past or have dated before and it didn’t end on a good note.
  • Being late for a date no matter what the reason could be would make you look really ugly especially when it is the first date with some one.
  • Be honest about the way you feel about life and love. Being superficial or lying about it would not only hurt the other person but would pain you as well later.
  • Have a balance; being too available is not the best things. At the same time being really hard to get can dilute your chances of being with some one.
  • Don’t able about yourself too much on the first date; give the opportunity to the other person to talk as well.
  • When you are on a date, you should never look at other people around and seem distracted.
  • Be at your best behaviour while on a date. Getting drunk and misbehaving would not fetch any thing, no matter how you justify the same.
  • While going on a date, make sure that some one knows about it. Carry your cell phone and never trust the other person with every thing. Use your head as you might end up being an unwanted situation.
  • On your first date you should not share personal information – you phone number, your home address or your place of work.
  • You should never have sex on the first date as it would reflect ill of you and set a wrong expectation
  • Dating a married person is a big no. in case you get involved you would not only be harming you but encouraging the married person to ruin the relation ship with his or her spouse as well.

THE DO’S OF DATING

There is code of conduct for ever thing and dating is no different. There are certain things that you should take care of while you are dating. Most of the people are ignorant about the do’s of dating and hence, this results in throwing them out of the dating game. Following the below mentioned suggestions and know all about the dating do’s –

  • While you are dating – it could be your first date or could be second or the third one with the same person, make sure that you are dressed well and are aligned well with the clock.
  • Have a free mind. Try to enjoy your time out rather than stressing yourself by evaluating the other person to gauge if he or she is your soul mate or not.
  • Always make sure that you do compliment your date, irrespective of how he or she is dressed. People spend a lot of time on front of the mirror while they are dressing up for the date. It is simply polite to acknowledge that.
  • Make sure that you are showing your interest in the other person and try to be as interesting as possible to allow your date to have a good time as well.
  • Lying should never be a part of the dating process. If for some reason you think that you would not want to see the same person again, then politely put your pint across rather than saying that you would call, when you know you would never call.
  • Date people only who you are attracted to. Making appoint or listening to your peers and dating some one is a bad idea and a waste of time.
  • No matter what the first impression of the date is make sure that you stay positive till the end to make the best of the date you are on.
  • Dating is exciting and when you are dating some one who you really want to be you should be creative around the arrangement. Even if you are not that super excited about the date, planning for the same is a part of dating etiquettes.
  • Be proactive find a date rather than waiting for people to do that.
  • Have people around yourself with people who are open minded, believe in healthy dating and can be supportive for you.